Must Qualities to impart to a child!
The world is manipulative, I find a swarm of narcissists all the time I walk in my life! But despite that what is elemental to me are some close cooperative friends and family who have made living life, a beautiful phenomenon. Being optimistic & full of gratitude is what I learnt from my parents & somehow life prompted me to continue the same qualities and attitude till day. It fills up my life with happiness, boosts my energies, calms me down and helps me cherish this fascinating life.
Thinking of all this, I wanted my kid to have a balanced “Emotional Beginning” & one day just listed out some feelings, I would wish my kid to have as a MUST in him.
5 Qualities I want to impart to my kid early in life!
1. Gratitude :
A heart full of gratitude is becoming rare in this world. “Why not thank your mom for a yummy meal she cooked? or why not recognise your friend for her helping hand! Let’s go and say to mom that she still looks beautiful & see the glory on her face.”
Well that’s what happened to me! “Yesterday, while going for a family party, my kid suddenly came & told me that mom you are looking beautiful wearing this saree”.
I was excited, a near to 3year old kid & he appreciates me more than his Dad:). Really I’m smiling till now! It doesn’t costs one any penny but just gives a smile on someones face. Thanks giving & appreciation are the biggest offerings you can gift someone! Be generous in doing it, this is the biggest feeling I want my baby to develop & nurture through his life.
“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings” – William Arthur Ward, Don’t you feel it is true?
2. Politeness :
Being Polite gives a sense of calmness in our lives. Kids are kids and they will for sure shout and fight as well. But in the end they need to have in the back of their minds to be polite and soft to all. I keep on reminding that to my child & it seems good to hear when he says me – “Mama why did you shout at me. Well I’ve stopped yelling at him now:). Power of politeness and Gratitude is immense. It will always prompt people to be more inclined towards you and you’ll always have good people besides in every phase of life.
“One of the greatest victories you can gain over someone is to beat him at politeness. Josh Billings”
3. Sharing :
Such a beautiful quote by Lord Buddha – “Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared”.
I’ve been freaking while teaching “Sharing” to my kid. He is so possessive of his things and mostly never wants them to be shared with anyone, specially with kids of his age. I saw that most of the kids at this tender age are insecure that their beloved things will go away if it will be shared. I have been practising “promoting sharing his favourite toys with his friends” so much from past 4-5 months, that now I’m seeing some positive outcome.
“The other day, my kid got a new double decker bus for his bestie and to my utter dismay he gave him lovingly, saying mama I will share it:). Indeed, I was happy to know that the seeds sown are transforming slowly.
A child can never practise what is taught only one time. What I learnt is, qualities & good gestures needs to be repeatedly explained to them, with practical experiences, by showing them how you follow. As they see they learn & imbibe these qualities in their lives.
4. Loving :
Yes, I want him to be loving towards his friends, family, animals & for all in this world. But this is not a practical expectation as even I cannot be loving to all. But then, from the core of heart, I try to teach him to be loving to all. There will be some rude encounters, but rather than bogging up the brains in them & feeling negative, why not leave them there & channelise your energy into something creative & intellectual. Let me see how this goes as he grows up! To me, being loving takes you miles across the borders with so many lovely people always ready to hug you!
5. Loving doesn’t means being Extra Emotional :
I see that my kid is far more emotional. “When he listens to his rhyme – 5 Little ducks, he becomes sad when all the 5 little ducks get lost & Mother duck can’t find any. One day he started crying when this line came”! Gosh, he was getting that emotional. Since then, I have tried to control his emotions. I need to make him strong enough when emotional circumstances come across. I’ve started saying “No”, trying to be hard sometimes, making him explain what matters and what not! It seems to be a very practical journey but what I need to inculcate in him is “Mental strength” & a balanced EQ.
“Pull up a chair. Take a taste. Come join us. Life is so endlessly delicious.” -Ruth Reichl.
It doesn’t costs a cent to have these beautiful qualities, but they will fill our heart, body, mind and soul with immense optimism! And what matters is, when these qualities are being imparted; the sooner the better. Kids brains & hearts are so naive & pure. They don’t have anything filled in it. They’ll do what they see & learn from the surroundings. Let’s give them a confident & affirmative aura to grow to make world a magnificent place!